A new baby changes family dynamics, no matter how hard we try to keep things consistent. It’s an exciting journey for everyone in the family.
When there are older children/siblings involved, a little more preparation can really help with a smooth transition. There have actually been many studies in the field of obstetrics, paediatrics, and psychology and child development on the importance of sibling preparation for a new baby.
Results show a difference in sibling behaviour with preparation programs & anticipatory guidance, but what’s even more interesting; some studies even demonstrate a difference in mothers’ perceptions of how well they are able to cope with her exciting new life with 2 or more children!
We know from current and previous research, that sibling preparation is beneficial, both for parents and older children AND that it works!
Here are a few helpful tips for you as you prepare your older child(ren) for a new family member:
- Remind him or her that they were once a baby too! Show your little one pictures of when they were a baby. Talk about what they did as a baby, how you fed them and how you will feed this baby. If you are breastfeeding, talk about it openly, and explain how babies get milk from their mommy to help them grow, just like the sibling did.
- Buy or borrow newborn sized dolls. Talk about how to be gentle with new babies. Talk about how their heads are very sensitive, and that we need to be extra gentle with them.
- Practise changing the doll, holding the doll ( make careful note to talk about cradling the neck, and how little ones are not to pick up newborn baby without help)
- Read books about new babies/new siblings to help prepare. Visit your local library or bookstore and ask for suggestions, or browse a few options.
- Try to not rush milestones – for example, it may not be realistic to have your older child potty trained before the new baby. Another example is getting an older child out of a crib so the new baby can use their ‘old’ crib. Perhaps holding off, or ensure that the change is done well before new baby’s arrival would work for your family.
- Set aside time after the baby is born that is special time just for you and the child. "mommy and me play dates" provide a little time for some extra love & attention
- Last, but not least, expect a little jealousy. It will come. It may not be the first week or month, but eventually it may happen. You may see this in the traditional way, or by regression (so a child who slept through the night stops, or a child who was potty trained is suddenly having accidents). Try not to make a big deal of these things, and instead take them as signs your child needs a bit of extra attention from you.
Bella Vida Baby offers innovative and FUN sibling prep class. The age range is generally for ages 2 - 9 years, however we can adjust the program for slightly younger or older children. The course is offered monthly and is 1 1/2 hours. It includes an information session for parents & children, a craft and MORE!
Visit www.bellavidababy.ca for more information or call us today: 613-484-5645
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